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How to Stop Building Someone Else's Dream and Build Your Own
the 5-step blueprint for reclaiming your life's direction
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The Harsh Truth: You're putting in 40+ hours a week building someone else's vision... But can't find 30 minutes to pursue your own?
I get it. That was me too.
Weekends came, and I was mentally and physically drained. Staring at another to-do list that somehow never included my own dreams.
Sure, the salary was good, but it was a tiny fraction of the value I was creating for someone else's empire.
Fear and self-doubt are the silent architects of our comfort zones. They whisper convincing lies: "You're not ready," "What if you fail?" "Who are you to think you can do this?"
Do NOT believe the dream killers - as I call them. This negative self talk doesn't just keep us from believing in ourselves.
It tries to block us from taking ownership of our own lives and our future.
The Psychology Behind Our Paralysis
Fear of failure often masquerades as logical thinking.
We tell ourselves we're being "realistic" when we're actually being paralyzed by the unknown.
Self-doubt feeds on comparison, making us believe everyone else has figured it out while we're stumbling in the dark.
But here's the truth: everyone is making it up as they go.
The most successful people aren't without fears. They acknowledge their fears and do it anyway.
They decide that regret from inaction weighs far heavier than temporary discomfort from taking a leap of faith.
The fear of failure is temporary - regret is permanent.
Your Step-by-Step Guide to Breaking Free
Step 1: Conduct Your Life Audit
Take a solo vacation, even if it's just a weekend getaway. I did this and it was a catalyst to beginning my process to transition out of my 9-5.
Ask yourself the important questions:
What am I really doing with my life?
What's next?
Am I living my values or someone else's expectations?
Where do I truly want to be in 5-10 years?
Step 2: Carve Out Your Sacred 30 Minutes
If you don't have a plan for your life and energy, someone else will gladly provide one.
And it won't be in your best interests or in alignment with your priorities.
Find 30 minutes daily.
Before work, during lunch, after dinner. This isn't selfish; it's your future we're talking about. Work on your exit plan.
Step 3: Start Small, Think Big
You don't need to quit your job tomorrow.
Begin by investing in yourself during those 30 minutes. Research your passion project, develop a new skill, or network with other like-minded people.
Small, consistent actions compound into life-changing momentum.
Step 4: Reframe Your Relationship with Fear
Instead of asking "What if I fail?" ask "What if I succeed?"
Better yet, ask "What if I don't try at all?"
Facing your fears and walking through them leads to the most growth. One of the biggest benefits of stepping out is who you become on the journey.
Step 5: Build Your Support System
Surround yourself with people who challenge your limitations, not validate your excuses.
Find mentors, join communities, and/or work with a coach who believes in your potential even when you don't. This network will be key to staying the course as you continue on your path.
Staying True to Yourself in a World of Expectations
Being authentic isn't about being perfect. It's about being honest.
With yourself about what you want. With others about your boundaries. With your dreams about the work required to achieve them.
The world will try to fit you into predetermined boxes.
Your family might expect certain things. Society might pressure you toward "safe" paths. Your current employer definitely benefits from your compliance.
But your life is yours to design.
The Time is Now
You need to care as much - or more - about your personal goals as your employer's quarterly targets.
The harsh reality is that while you're building someone else's dream, your own dreams are on the sidelines waiting for your attention.
Stop waiting for the "right time." Stop overthinking the perfect plan. Stop letting fear make your decisions.
The person you're meant to become is waiting on the other side of your 'comfort zone.'
Which you will fully realize once you step out, wasn't all that comfortable to begin with.
Your 30 minutes start now. What will you do with them?
Remember: The greatest risk isn't failure - it's letting fear keep you from writing your own story.
If you're struggling with limiting beliefs that keep getting in your way, I've also written a Shadow Work eBook along with a 30-day journal with prompts, 10-week workbook, and 30-day affirmations to help tame the doubts and step into your life fully.
These are the tools and resources I used to start multiple businesses and leave the corporate handcuffs behind 10 years ago.
I believe in YOU. You can do it too!
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Until next time,
LuRae
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