the secrets to getting everything you want in life

How often do we look at our lives and wonder why things aren't working out as planned?

We might blame our boss for overlooking us for a promotion, our partner for not being supportive enough, or factors outside ourselves for our financial struggles.

Welcome to the dynamics of our hidden programming. Without exploring and addressing our subconscious beliefs -- we can self-sabotage our dreams and become our own worst enemy without even consciously realizing it.

This pattern of behavior stems from our shadow self, the hidden aspects of our personality and belief system that operate beneath our conscious awareness. This hidden but programmed system of beliefs quietly influences our decisions, reactions, and life outcomes.

We all have hidden belief frameworks that were created from birth through our teen years. Experiences, things we were told by others, family and societal influences all shape what we believe to be true about ourselves and the world around us.

Unfortunately, many of the beliefs we hold either consciously or unconsciously, will prevent us from experiencing and achieving the things we want the most.

However, until we take the steps to address our shadow self and beliefs, we are looking at life with one eye shut. We will tend to explain away things not going the way we want because of outside forces.

This mentality when left unchecked, serves as a protective mechanism. It's easier to blame others or circumstances beyond our control than to confront our own fears, limiting beliefs, and self-imposed barriers.

By unconsciously seeing circumstances as out of our control, we avoid taking responsibility for our choices and outcomes, while simultaneously reinforcing patterns that keep us stuck.

The shadow operates in subtle ways. It might manifest as:

- Procrastination on important projects or goals

- Self-defeating thoughts that undermine confidence

- Sabotaging relationships just as they start getting serious

- Making impulsive decisions that derail progress

- Creating chaos or drama to avoid facing deeper issues

We must be willing to look honestly at our patterns and acknowledge where we might be standing in our own way. This requires courage and humility – qualities that our shadow self often resists.

As a result of repetitive patterns earlier in my life, I vowed to do whatever it took to figure life out. I did several things including reading tons of books, lots of therapy, becoming a certified professional life coach, and participating in many impactful transformational training events.

I am forever grateful for the opportunity each of these steps and experiences taught me. I vowed to break generational patterns and repetitive cycles for myself and my children.

Fortunately, the benefits of these efforts ripple way beyond ourselves and our immediate loved ones.

Breaking free from these patterns requires:

1. Acknowledging our role in creating our circumstances

2. Examining our beliefs about what we deserve

3. Questioning the stories we tell ourselves about why things happen

4. Taking responsibility for our choices and their outcomes

5. Developing self-awareness around our triggers and reactions

Our shadow self loses much of its power when brought into the light of consciousness. We can start making different choices, challenging our limiting beliefs, and taking authentic responsibility for our lives.

I put the key information and steps to begin the process and transform your life here.

Remember, the goal isn't to eliminate the shadow – it's part of who we are. Instead, we can integrate it consciously, understanding its protective intentions while choosing more empowering ways to address our fears and needs.

When we stop being our own worst enemy and learn to work with all aspects of ourselves, including our shadow, our lives are much more harmonious. We are in alignment with new possibilities for growth, success, and fulfillment.

The next time you find yourself blaming external circumstances for your challenges, pause and ask yourself: "How might I be contributing to this situation?" The answer might unveil the first step toward genuine change and empowerment.

If you would like support in this process, email me and get the 'Hidden Secrets to Living Your Best Life.'

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Until next time,

LuRae

Be You and Be Free